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Many people have told me I am too young to be married. Others have said but he is your first boyfriend, how do you know he is what you like(Josh has actually said the same thing). But y'all haven't even been together that long. Well I am going to do my best to clarify these questions.
  1. Age is just a number. I believe life experiences are what causes one to mature. So if you haven't lived my life or his life then you have no say in what we do, why we do them, and how we do them... in other words,everyone 🙂. And actually, people in the olden days got married at 12 years old so in all honesty I'm pretty late on the whole marriage thing.
  2. The whole point of dating is to find a partner to spend the rest of your life with and to start a family with. I just got lucky and found mine on the first try. And I'm going to quote everyone who has been asked the question of how do you know he or she is the one.... "when you know, you know." It's as simple as that. There is no second thought in your head asking you if he or she is the one. You know in your mind, heart, and soul that this is your person. 
  3. Like I said "when you know, you know". I always laugh because everyone when they first meet Josh and I they assume we have been together for several years. When I tell them we have only been together for however many months they are truly astonished. We have spent most of our waking time together this past year excluding school for me and the army for him. And if we weren't together then we were bound to be talking about each other and you know this if you worked with me or were close to me. 

Love is not a feeling. Love is a commitment and a choice just like marriage. The only difference is that it is a commitment from both parties. For anyone who just thought "a choice you are going to have to live with" ---- Yep! I sure am going to have to live with it (by the way, it is a he, and he has a name) Marrying Joshua was the best decision I ever made and I am super excited to be able to live out the rest of my life with him because he is such an incredible man...... 
For anyone who just thought "But living with them is harder than dating them because you have to deal with them all the time in all of their moods plus dealing with house chores, bills, and work and blah blah etc." 
First of all, living with anyone is hard. I could have a friend that I get along great with but as soon as we are living together there are bound to be fights. That's just how life works. Whether there are chores or bills or whatever. Life guarantees arguments. I believe that knowing how to communicate your frustration and opinions on all matters is key to a successful and happy relationship of any kind whether it be with friends, family, or your significant other. Luckily, we have made our own vows and promises when it comes to fighting and communication so I'm not the least bit worried about it. 

I wouldn't change one thing about the way our relationship has gone. I believe everything happens for a reason and if I wasn't supposed to be married to him then I wouldn't have been led to meet him the night that I did. He saved me in his own way and he knows what I mean. I owe my life to him and would give it to him faster than a heartbeat. He is my soul mate and my best friend. I would truly be lost without him. 

And more than anything, thank you to all the people who have supported Josh and I in our decisions. It means the world to us. I've had about 10 or so people tell me how they got married at my age and they are still together (insert large two digit number here) years later and it is so inspiring and uplifting to hear after so much repeated negativity about how we aren't going to last because we got married too young or too early or whatever other negative thing people have tried to throw our direction. At this point we just laugh it off because we know we are going to prove all the negative nellies wrong 🤷🏻‍♀️


You know, in church I was taught that in the Bible God said he created all men equal but obviously he didn't. He took his good, sweet time with Joshua and somehow after years of horrible luck I was gifted with him and I will be eternally grateful for him. Happy anniversary babe 😘 one year of dating and two months of marriage ☺️ They have been the best days of my life and I know there are so many more to come because of you. I love you with all my heart and soul Joshua.  💜






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